Good. Fine. Okay

How are you?
– Good.

How ya doin’?
– Fine.

How’s it going?
– Okay.

This is one of the biggest lies most of us say daily. To be fair, most people who are asking the question want to hear those answers. Or at least, that’s what we think. In the society we live in, it seems really difficult to let our guard down and be honest enough to answer the simple question of how we are.

We fear our honesty will bring people down, or we’ll constantly be seen as negative or gloomy. What we really need to understand is that it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to be sad, angry, anxious, or scared, provided we actually do something about it.


Hear me out. This is not in anyway meant as a judgment against anyone. It’s okay to not have rainbows flying out of your butt daily, but it’s not okay to live that way daily and not try to get some sort of help or use an outlet. Whether it’s singing, therapy, art, dance, or as in my case, blogging, the emotions need to be released.

The thing about negative emotions is that they’re like a cut in your skin that isn’t healing properly. The longer they’re left to fester, the more damage they’ll do. The hurts we’ve experienced are real… they’ve happened. And they’re not so easily forgotten. So, instead of carrying the weights that others have thrown on us, we deserve to be released from them and not be infected by those hurts any longer.

What are your feelings on this? Feel free to share your feelings in the comments.


The Cafe Owner